Split the invisible work of family life fairly, without the fights. See every task on paper, talk about it calmly, and hand over whole jobs so one person stops carrying everything in their head.
Who it's for
- The "default parent" who remembers, plans and notices everything
- Couples who argue about chores and want a calm, fair way to share
- Solo and co-parents who want to share the load with family, friends and services
What's inside
- Start Here: what this is, how to use it in 3 steps, what to do today
- Part 1 · What the mental load is: the 4 layers of every task, the default-parent check, the full list of 100 invisible tasks in 10 areas, how the load changes by age
- Part 2 · The household audit: who notices, plans and does each task, a full who-owns-what example, reading it without a fight, must / should / could / drop
- Part 3 · The fair-split conversation: the 30-minute agenda, nine scripts for hard moments, say this not that, four ways to split, a real conversation start to end
- Part 4 · Owning a task from start to end: helper vs owner, the 4-step handover, handover notes for 6 areas, ten tasks to share first
- Part 5 · Systems that carry the load: one shared calendar, three lists, routines on set days, the Sunday 15, the 10-minute family meeting
- Part 6 · Solo parents: your support circle, swaps with other parents, kids as part of the team, a sick-day back-up plan, co-parenting across two homes
- Part 7 · The monthly check-in: the 20-minute agenda, 10 questions, re-balancing when life changes, a 4-week plan to make it stick
- Quick reference: the whole method on one page (print and keep)
- Companion planner (18 pages, fillable): 100-task household audit (example + 4 pages), audit results, who-owns-what chart, conversation script card, the Sunday 15, monthly check-in sheet
- 30 ready-to-use scripts and filled examples throughout
How to use it
- Each adult ticks the 100-task audit alone, then you compare.
- Have the 30-minute fair-split conversation with the script card.
- Hand over whole tasks, run the Sunday 15 weekly and check in monthly.
Formats and devices
- Ebook: 60-page PDF, A5, reads well on phone, tablet and computer
- Companion planner: 18-page PDF in A4 and US Letter, fillable on screen or printable
- Works with any PDF reader
General information, not medical advice. Talk to your pediatrician, midwife or doctor about your child.
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