Big feelings, defiance & the leap to school.
Five calm guides plus 20 fridge-ready printables — anchored by the emotion-coaching method that makes discipline, bedtime, screens, and school-readiness finally click into place.
One skill unlocks all the others.
At 3–5, almost everything — the defiance, the bedtime stalling, the screen tantrums, the readiness for school — traces back to one developing skill: emotional regulation. Teach that, and the rest of the bundle stops being a fight. That's why Big Emotions, Small Humans is the keystone, and the other four books build on it.
Verbal enough to fool you. Still years from regulated.
A preschooler can negotiate like a tiny lawyer and melt down like a toddler — in the same five minutes. And big school is coming, with all the pressure that brings.
The 0-to-60 meltdown
Calm one second, floor-bound the next, over something you genuinely didn't see coming.
"You're not my friend!"
The new defiance, the talking back, the testing of every limit you set.
The screen battle
The off-switch tantrum, the hour-counting guilt, the feeling you've lost the plot.
"Is my kid ready?"
The flashcard panic — when what actually matters for school is something else entirely.
Emotion coaching, in five moves.
The whole bundle is built on one teachable skill — the 5-step method that turns a meltdown into a lesson and a feeling into a word:
- 1Notice the feeling — even the small ones.
- 2Name it, tentatively: "You seem really frustrated."
- 3Allow the feeling, fully: "It's okay to be angry."
- 4Limit the behavior: "You can be mad. I won't let you hit."
- 5Solve — later, together, once everyone's calm.
Five guides. One builds the foundation.
Start with the keystone, then the other four put it to work — on discipline, bedtime, screens, and the leap to school.
Big Emotions, Small Humans
Teaching 3–5s to name and ride their feelings, with the 5-step emotion-coaching method the rest of the bundle builds on. Covers anger, fear, sadness, jealousy, the shame we install by accident, and the calm-down toolkit. This is the book everything else stands on.
The Whining, Hitting, Talking-Back Phase
A calm discipline guide for the defiance years. Kind and firm at the same time — the authoritative middle path between the permissive swamp and the punitive cliff. The big three decoded (whining, hitting, talking back), plus consequences that teach instead of backfire.
Preschool Bedtime Battles
The routines that finally stick: closing the stalling economy, the new preschool fears (monsters, the dark, the big questions) and how to build courage instead of feeding the fear, night visits and early waking, and dropping the nap without wrecking bedtime.
Screen Time at 3–5
The calm framework, no hour-counting required. The 4 questions that matter more than minutes, content and co-viewing, the off-switch method and screen-tantrum response, a sane family media plan, and the honest bit about your own screen use.
Kindergarten Ready
What actually matters before big school — and it's far less about letters than the flashcard industry wants you to think. The self-help skills that make or break the first weeks, pre-literacy through play, the redshirting question, and the very normal after-school "restraint collapse."
Plus 20 fridge-ready printables.
The tools that make the methods stick — designed for the wall, the fridge, the backpack. One page each, ready when the feeling hits.
- The Feelings Wheel
- Emotion-Coaching Steps Card
- The Calm-Down Menu
- The Parent Reset Card
- Kind-and-Firm Toolkit
- The Consequences Cheat-Sheet
- The Bedtime Routine Chart
- The Night-Fears Card
- The Family Media Plan
- The Off-Switch Script
- Kindergarten-Readiness Checklist
- ...and 9 more
Why parents pick parentif.
Three things this bundle does differently from the parenting internet.
Built on one real skill
Emotional regulation is the highest-leverage skill of early childhood. Teach it once, and discipline, bedtime, and screens all get easier.
Evidence, not flashcards
Grounded in Gottman's emotion coaching, NAEYC readiness research, and current pediatric guidance. Sources cited; the flashcard panic debunked.
Calm, not preachy
No shame, no theater, no moralized screens. Warm and firm at once — the authoritative middle path, in plain language.
From the parentif community.
The emotion-coaching steps changed our house. Naming the feeling before solving it cut our meltdowns in half. The feelings wheel lives on our fridge.
The Kindergarten Ready book talked me off the flashcard ledge. Turns out my kid was more ready than I thought — just not in the way I was measuring.
The screen-time framework finally gave us a plan we both agreed on. The off-switch method ended the daily tablet war. Calmer evenings already.
Everything you get today.
- Big Emotions, Small Humans ebook $9
- The Whining, Hitting, Talking-Back Phase ebook $9
- Preschool Bedtime Battles ebook $9
- Screen Time at 3–5 ebook $9
- Kindergarten Ready ebook $9
- 20 fridge-ready printables included
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Teach the one skill that unlocks the rest.
Five calm guides, twenty printables, one keystone method — for the feelings, the defiance, and the leap to school. Everything the preschool years throw at you, with a plan that holds together.
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